Charm: Personality--the "P" in "P's and Q's"

Dear Reader,

What a lovely day this has been to-day! The northeast finally has some nicer weather and I have all of the windows open in my home. Of course, the heat is on as well, but really, money is meant to be spent, isn't it? The fresh air has inspired me to write to you about the fragrance of your personality...so let us not delay...

I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to develop a charming and gracious personality. Even if mother nature has not blessed you with such, a shame dear, really, it is your responsibility to make efforts to develop one that is pleasing to others. No one wants to be associated with someone who is a "wet mop" or someone who is negative and complains all of the time. It is time to turn over your leaf and become the cheerful and positive person that I know you can be. You want to be a person who attracts others and makes friends easily. Let's face it: the Scarsdale Charity League is not looking for "sour puss Sally" to join! It also wouldn't hurt to catch that suitor you have been after! Let's take a look at some of the following tips to help you on your way to personality perfection:

1. If you are a "gloomy gus", find out what is making you so. Are there some other flaws in your life which bring you down? Well, pick up yourself by your boot straps and get moving. If it is exercise you need, start walking. If you have a bland face and appearance, by all means, see a beauty specialist and get some of that new lipstick and beauty cream. If you have some circumstances in your life which are making your demeanor less than appealing to others, change them, or at least get those lemons out and start squeezing. You need to make positives out of all of the negatives in your life. It is how you respond to what comes your way which can help you strengthen your outlook. Perhaps contact your clergyman and see if he has anything to say about it. Have a positive attitude!

2. Are you boring? Do you offend others with a sarcastic or off-color sense of humor? Well, the remedy here is to find some interests that you can share with others, without offending them. Try some new activities in your life to make it more exciting. You can only discuss your garden for so long, dear. Try a new sport or or hobby. You will feel better about yourself and make some new friends, too. Stay current with what is happening in the world, even if you only can view 20 minutes of the morning news. Be interesting!

3. Are you rude or lacking in manners? Well, the first solution is to read my posts, and weekly! You cannot allow these personality flaws to continue. Once you are current in your reading, take some etiquette and dance classes at your local community center or, if you have a charming and poised friend, invite her over for tea and some manners lessons. You also need to remove youself from any circle of friends with these characteristics. Beauty is as beauty does--associate with people who are lovely and charming...osmosis is a wonderful thing!

4. Now that you have gotten beyond your circumstances, you need to keep that positive outlook each and every day. EVERY day when you wake up, put yourself together and try to be your beauty best, even if you are ill. Most people are much happier if they take care of their appearance. Take a beauty bath, get dressed, put on some makeup and perfume, and smile at yourself in the mirror. You are worth the time it takes to prepare for the day. Don't listen to "speedy Susan" who can get ready in 5 minutes. She probably looks it, too! Take at least an hour every day for yourself.

5. Smile, smile, smile (and by all means, have your teeth whitened, if needed). Smiling is contagious. Others will enjoy being around a person who is positive and happy. Now, don't over do it--there is no need to be fake. As you take my tips under advisement, the positivity in your life will come naturally.

Well dear reader, I did enjoy a late start to my morning to-day. I am going to enjoy a beauty bath of my own and a cup of tea, of course with milk and sugar.

Until next time...

HF